An Unintentional Deception

How Focusing on Victimhood Turns Attention Away from Your Vitality

Whenever you turn your focus toward something, a natural consequence is that you're turning away from something else.

Consider this tenet when it comes to victimhood. When placing focus on one's victimhood, any attention there is at the cost of not focusing on what lies in the other direction from victimhood.

You may not intend to shun the thing you're not focused on, but if you don't put attention there, it’s ignored. Without your attention, those things will weaken and atrophy. It’s important to be mindful of how you’re choosing to split your attention. If you focus on victimhood, there must be other things to occupy your mind for counterbalance.

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The Shadow Side of Identifying as Victim

How does victim consciousness set in? It’s understandable that there are instances when you feel compelled to identify as a victim. When you're feeling like life is happening TO you and you're getting the short end of the stick. It may feel like this, but you must ask yourself if it’s true. Is it absolutely true that it’s happening to you that way?

When embracing victimhood consciousness, it gets you into a disempowered mental state. Thinking that you don't have any free will within this world. You have thoughts telling you the expansion within the universe doesn't affect you too. This is a deception, whether it’s intentional or not.

The choice to remain submerged in victimhood consciousness is yours to decide. Energetically, you’re the one choosing to cut yourself from that expansion. You can continue with the downward spiral that’s been presented, or you can turn your around to generate an upward spiral.

Since my last article about victimhood, I've opened a floodgate of thoughts on the matter. I've started several threads to continue the discussion, and it's taken me some deliberation on where to land here. With a topic like victimhood, when talking about it objectively, it may sound dehumanizing or uncaring. That's not the intention. It's just that in the process of conceptualizing something like victimhood, it can come across as less compassionate or humane.

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The Pool You’re Swimming In

There’s an entry point into the victim mentality - it usually takes place following the victimizing experience you had. If you remain there, what’s keeping you there? There’s an inner experience happening and an outer experience happening. In addition to what’s going inside of you, take into account what's going on outside.

Some emotions feel like a realm, or like the sensation that you’re swimming in a vast pool. It may seem like there’s an external frequency that can seep into you. If your internal calibration resonates with that pool/realm, then you'll be kept there. You’ll drop anchor within that pool, within that realm of emotional being.

I believe that if you come to your life existence equipped to be able to feel a certain emotion, then you're meant to actually feel it. The question is, are you meant to stay there? Is it even possible to stay there or is it inevitable that it would lead to you spiraling downward? But if staying in place - being immovably the same - really isn't an option, then the choice is between a downward spiral or an upward spiral.

The downward spiral consists of continually dropping emotional anchor into the victimhood consciousness. The buoy or raft or life jacket comes in the shape of a thought form. The thought form alleviates the downward pull of emotion.

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Preparing Thought Forms Like Life Rafts

I get the sentiment of wanting to lean into one's victimhood. I truly want to honor any person's sovereign right to feel whatever they're meant to feel. AND I also know that I wouldn't want that person to remain chronically feeling those things. Even though they had the experience that would bring them there - I think they're meant to move forward to other experiences that would then move them away from the experience of victimization.

This is the conundrum of resonating with victimhood consciousness. You want to focus on it and move past it, but if you focus on it too much, then your attention apparatus keeps you in a state of victimhood. When you truly acknowledge it, all emotions are fleeting. When we have a successful moment, we move from it. When we have triumphs and moments of joyfulness, there's a temporary nature to it. As there is for moments of victimhood and oppression. When these things happen, they aren’t meant for us to stay there.

While understanding that if someone is in a depressed state and feeling lower emotions, you want to be mindful of not invalidating their experience by telling them to "snap out of it" or move on. That likely won't seem too compassionate, so remember to handle these situations with care. When conveying concern to someone about their victimization experience, how can you frame it as "yes, and."

How to honor that they're having an experience of victimization, and allow what they're feeling, and assure that it's okay AND hold space for realizations that no one is meant to stay there, and share signals that we're meant to move from it, and the journey continues. How can your presence assist their process? When they think of you, can you be a thought form that acts as a life raft?